Wondering if there is anything else you can do? Here are five steps that can help bring you and your child closer together
Make a conscious decision to plug into your kid's world. You
can't make assumptions about the critical choices that children have to make
today because the world they are living in is different from the one you grew
up in.
2. Spread the Word
When you talk to your children you've got to spread out your
logic so that they can see why you're saying what you're saying. Research shows
us that the amount of trouble kids get into is inversely proportional to the
number of words spoken in the home. What that means is, the less you talk at
home, the more trouble they get in outside the home.
3. Talk About Things That Don't Matter
How do you ever expect to talk to them about things that do
matter if you haven't practiced by talking about things that don't?
4. Remember, You're the Parent
Children have lots of friends who tell them what they want
to hear. They don't need you to be another friend. They need you to be an
authority figure who lets them know where the boundaries of acceptable behavior
are. Trying to be his or her friend will only undermine your authority as a
parent and come back to bite you.
5. Allow Them A Sense of Mastery
You have to put your kids in a world where they feel a sense
of mastery over their own environment. It's important that they don't feel
they're subject to arbitrary guidance or haphazard decisions.
Dr.Phil
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