Trying for a second baby with a little one already in the
house means that you may need to get creative about fitting in sex when all
systems are go.
Remember the days when sex with your spouse could be
spontaneous? When you could decide on a whim to have a little romp in the sack
during a lazy afternoon? When you could take your time to enjoy a leisurely
date night before moving the party to the bedroom? Oh boy — have times changed.
Now your brain is too jam-packed with Wiggles songs, toddler-class schedules,
and the endless search for the perfect sippy cup.
With a little one in the
house, not to mention an ovulation schedule to monitor, spontaneous sex is
probably not an option anymore. If you want to try for baby number two without
getting interrupted by your little coitus interrupter, you’ll have to get
creative when it comes to sex (and we’re not just talking about positions!).
Here are some sneaky strategies for busy parents looking to fit in baby making
Arrange a rendezvous.
If you know in advance when you
ovulate (or if you’re monitoring your cycle closely with an ovulation kit or
fertility charting), you’ll want to schedule sex. And while that may not sound
romantic, you can actually have fun with it. Do what you can to clear your calendar
for some portion of those prime baby making days and view that time as quality
couple time. You could take advantage of nap time to fit in a little
baby-number-two making session. Or better yet, arrange for Grandma to take
little Ethan off your hands for an afternoon, if possible. Or set up a play date
with another mommy who can take your kid and hers for a few hours. No one needs
to know what you’re doing but you and your man!
Play hooky with your hubby.
If you get an indication on a
weekday that it’s go time (from an ovulation test, a basal body temperature
reading, or some other method), seize the opportunity despite the usual weekday
constraints. Drop your child off at preschool or day care, call in sick from
work, and get down to baby making business. Feeling naughty can even spice up
the sex!
Reclaim the bedroom.
Does your little one sleep in Mommy and
Daddy’s room? Now that you’re working toward a second pregnancy (and looking
for some privacy to make that happen), this may be a good time to transition
your tyke to his own room. With any luck, you’ll soon have baby number two to
add to the brood, and that bedroom may get awfully crowded if your firstborn is
still shacking up with you. So start the process of sleep training your tot —
not only will it allow you the freedom to “get busy” in your bedroom when you
need to, it will be one less adjustment your child will have to make when the
second baby comes along.
Be up for a change of scene.
Not ready to kick your kid out
of the master bedroom just yet? Then be prepared to take your show on the road,
especially if keeping the noise level down during baby making sessions is not
your (or your husband’s) strong suit. After all, you’re just as likely to
conceive on the couch (or even on your cushy bath mat) as you are in your bed.
So be flexible — metaphorically and literally (a little flexibility can go a
long way when trying to have sex in cramped quarters!) — and you may be
rewarded with a baby number two sooner than you think
what to expect
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